I don’t even know where to start this blog post.
I’m back in Puerto Morelos…. (yay?)
If you’ve been following along, you know that I just left Puerto Morelos in late June and that I was planning to spend a few months in Colorado and then return here to start my NEW JOB (!!!) in the fall.
And you also know that I left my house in the care of someone because everyone knows that you can’t leave a house empty in Mexico.
And you might know, or have guessed, that the someone that I left in the house was a person who I had previously (and erroneously, it turns out) referred to as “a nice man”….
CONGRATULATIONS ON MAKING ANOTHER SPECTACULARLY BAD DECISION REGARDING A MAN, KIM.
Turns out this man is not a nice man.
(which I knew or should have known before the leaving-him-in-my-house decision)
He is, in fact a con man. A drug addict. A thief. A pathological liar. A sociopath.
(and those are the nice words for him)
(motherfucker is one of the bad words for him)
(also pendejo and cabron)
And in the four weeks that I was away from my house, he (a) hot-wired my car and was stopped while driving it and now it is impounded by the Federales and I will probably never see it again and (b) cleaned out the house — stole all the appliances, TVs, electronics, the AIR CONDITIONER, pretty much anything that could be relatively easily removed from the house and sold, including my hot pink yoga-fucking-mat.
(the yoga mat? that is just mean.)
(c) the dude rented my house to another family.
Miraculously (in my opinion) the other family just happened to ask a friend of mine to help them move into my house. And my friend was all “what the fuck?” and “let’s call Kim!” and “dude, where are all the appliances?”
And that is how I found out.
(and, oh my god, i couldn’t believe it, couldn’t wrap my head around it, kicked in the stomach feeling, intense shame and humiliation and what-have-i-done? and oh mommy, i’m so sorry, so so sorry and the motherfucker was STILL calling/texting and telling me everything was great and, in fact, he had been working on the house and preparing it for when my family was going to visit in a few days…)
And I fell apart for lots of reasons but mostly because I didn’t know what to do because I had less than $200 to my name, which is not enough to buy a plane ticket to Cancun and especially not enough to stay in Mexico and not enough to replace anything stolen. And then I realized that once I deposited a check I would have a little bit more — enough for a plane ticket one way — but still not enough to stay/replace anything.
(And if I go to Mexico now how will I get everything taken care of in Colorado and I can’t afford to make two trips and I haven’t spent any time with Austin and his birthday is coming up and all my shit is still in storage and I need to sell some stuff to survive until the job starts and I need to go to the doctor and get prescriptions and I can’t live in the house with no refrigerator and FUCK and I have so much to do in Colorado, how can I go to Mexico now?)
So I bought a one-way ticket to Cancun.
And my amazing friend Mary picked me up and let me stay with her and she came with me to kick him out of the house when no one else wanted to get involved because the dude may or may not be a drug dealer (or worse), etc. etc.
(The point is that I couldn’t find anyone willing to just go talk to the police with me (as I do not speak spanish) so I had to get him out of the house without the help of the police. I was terrified and Mary was all “fuck it, I’ll back you up, let’s roll” (she’s, ummm, in her 60’s) and so we did.)
So we just walked right in and I was totally going to keep my cool and not escalate the situation (just in case he was psycho) and then he smiled and said “Kim! What a nice surprise. What are you doing here?” and tried to hug me. And that is when things, ummm, escalated on my part.
GET. OUT. OF. MY. HOUSE.
(SCREAMING at the top of my lungs and shaking like a leaf)
“What are you talking about?”
GET THE FUCK OUT! WHERE ARE THE REFRIGERATORS? WHERE IS THE AIR CONDITIONER? GET THE FUCK OUT NOW!
“No no no, just calm down and I tell you what happen. Someone broke in and robbed the house.”
“Listen to me, can I talk to you right now?”
NO. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE.
“Can I call you later? Can I come over later when you’re calm down?”
NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO.
You get the picture…..
And then he left.
Of course there is more to the story. There always is.
I’m leaving out the best parts that serve to illustrate WHAT A FUCKING IDIOT I AM to have trusted him in the first place (because they are super embarrassing and I’m ashamed and also because they will probably be the parts that make my book a fucking NYT best seller…)(but mostly because they are embarrassing and just go to show that I am in serious need of continuous therapy to deal with issues like: Exactly how little do you value yourself if this kind of behavior is acceptable, Kim?”)(Although I could write a better book than 50 Shades of Grey with my eyes closed, so maybe I could turn my extreme shame into a bestseller and thereby finance my lifetime of therapy.)
I’ve filed a police report (thanks to the nice lady at the laundromat next door who speaks pretty good english and agreed to get involved and translate for me) and the nice detective (Sweet Jesus, there is a whole other chapter for the book — in a Hollywood story all of this bad shit would have happened to me to teach me a lesson and so that I could meet and fall in love with the handsome police officer assigned to my case — in real life, the officer/detective is kind of short (but cute…), barely speaks English, is probably married and thinks I am the most beautiful woman he’s ever met…. WHAT. THE. FUCK.???) tells me to be patient (aarrrgghh!) and that they have leads on where this guy is and that he will be arrested soon.
Lots of stuff to think about/write about.
I’m penniless in Puerto Morelos but I have amazing friends here (super special thanks to Mary and Linda for opening their homes to me and having my back!) and I am so lucky that people saw what was happening and got in touch with me. I’ve learned a lot. I’m not dead. My house is standing. All my mom’s beautiful artwork is intact and exactly where I left it. It could have been much worse.
But still, it was pretty fucking bad.
I will feel better when the bad guy is behind bars.
(fun fact: in Mexico you are GUILTY until proven innocent — they jail you first and ask questions later….yikes)
p.s. it’s hotter than the sun here. i’m not exaggerating.
p.p.s. he took my yoga mat. what kind of scary drug addict/dealer steals a pink yoga mat?
p.p.p.s. i don’t blame people for not wanting to get involved/translate with the police, this is a small community and things can get weird when the police are involved and there were all sorts of rumors flying around about how big and bad and horrible the guy was and people were worried he would see them as “enemies” and come after them, i guess.
p.p.p.p.s. the nice detective called me “voluptuous” (he knows that word in english… suspicious, right?) so it’s good that i can’t really afford food right now.